Shopping in my closet

A couple of weeks ago I got inspired to clean out my closet (we live in a small house, so my "closet" is actually a teeny closet, 2 armoires, and a small chest) after reading Married With Luggage. The blog is all about how they're decluttering, budgeting, and preparing for their trip around the world.

We're not taking a trip around the world (at least not anytime soon!), but joining The Compact is turning out to be a life-changing event for me. All of a sudden I don't want anything around that I don't absolutely LOVE and NEED. Also, it was time for spring cleaning and changing things out for the season.

Which brings me to these RYKA running shoes. I found these in my stack of shoe boxes, which always house my "out of season" shoes. There isn't room in my teeny closet to have them all out at once (lest you think I'm Imelda Marcos the 2nd, I only have about 20 pairs of shoes total, which I don't think is too bad for a girl).

Those of you who have been reading my blog since the beginning know that running shoes were one of the things I was worried about not being able to buy new. A few months ago I put them on my "exceptions" list, because it wouldn't be safe or healthy to skimp in that area. But I didn't need to worry, because there was this pair which had obviously never been worn right in my closet.

The funny thing is that my last three pairs of athletic shoes have been Merrells, which are usually some shade of tan or gray. All of a sudden I hated that bright white look so I switched brands. Which means that these shoes are at least 2 years old!

So this is either funny or embarrassing, depending on how you look at it. Something similar happened when I was looking into getting a digital camera to take photos for this blog and my husband remembered he ALREADY HAD ONE that he didn't use anymore. You can read about that incident here.

Have you ever found something you'd forgotten about in your own home? Do you ever go "shopping" in your closet? Please share your closet and decluttering stories in the Comments section.

Simple Living Newsletter

I'm so excited to tell you that one of my blog posts has been included in the May/June issue of the Simple Living Network newsletter. This is an excellent resource that I've been enjoying the past few months. Click here to read all the great articles, including one by Katy Wolk-Stanley, who blogs at The Non-Consumer Advocate and another by my fellow Los Angeleno Danielle Davis of Less is More Balanced. And don't forget to check out mine!

If you've been reading more than a few weeks, you might have seen it already, but you should still check it out. Because it's a different format. And maybe you've forgotten it. And you'll be so happy to find the newsletter, it really is great.

May "baby steps" challenge: stop those catalogs and junk mail once and for all

A few weeks ago, I wrote this post about how even though I'd joined The Compact and pledged to Buy Nothing New this year, I don't feel like a good role model for green living. And I vowed to Go Green this year, using the baby steps method, which works best for me if I want to change a habit long term.

I want to do one challenge per month for the next six months, and it's already May 4th, but there's still plenty of time because I've picked the easiest one on the list. The challenge for May is to stop those catalogs and junk mail once and for all. I should have done it years ago, but there's no time like the present. I'm so excited that by this time next month, we'll get less than half the mail we're getting now, and it will be stuff we actually WANT. Remember when it was fun to get mail?

I hope you'll join me in this baby steps challenge if you haven't already gotten a handle on your junk mail. I have a simple four-step plan:

1. Sign up for Catalog Choice. This will let me choose the catalogs I want to receive. Previously I was down to ordering from one or two, but since I'm doing The Compact I'll opt out of all catalogs.

2. Also put my name on Forest Ethic's Do Not Mail List. This should help with the rest of the junk mail that's not listed by Catalog Choice.

3. For all those credit card offers, I'll register to "opt out" at optoutprescreen.com. I already have more credit cards than I need, and actually only use one of them.

4. This may be unnecessary if I do items #1-#3, but every time I get a piece of junk mail I'll set it aside and call the toll-free number and ask to be put on their "Do Not Mail" list.

That should take care of our unwanted junk mail, if not by the end of the month, within the next couple of months. I estimate the first 3 steps will take me a total of less time than it took to write this post. And I might spend 5-10 minutes a couple of times a week calling companies and asking them to remove my name from their list.

So that's the challenge. Are you in? I'll update you on my progress halfway through May. And please let me know if you have any tips or questions, and if you want to join in the challenge in the Comments section.

Free audiobooks

FREE STUFF ALERT: Get your 9 free audiobooks from Barnes & Noble now through May 16th. Click here for all the details. I just checked this out and the books include some great authors: Alice Munro, Elizabeth Berg, Mark Twain, and Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

Thanks to Natalie at The Frugalista Files for this great tip.

Food Friday

No picture, because... no waste! Yay. I'd like to thank my husband, for eating every last little portion of leftovers and shrunken tomatoes this week.

We did well this week because I was determined. But over the past two months we have had a lot less waste in general and I think there are 3 main reasons:

1. I'm buying less food. I really am only planning 3 meals a week: one with a healthy fresh fish, one like chili or soup that yields plenty of leftovers, and once a week my husband makes pizza or pasta (lucky me). Our schedules are too variable to plan more than that, so we have to be flexible. The other nights we either eat leftovers, eat pantry meals (I always have plenty on hand for several different choices), or we go out to a restaurant or a friend's house.

2. The Eat Me! section of the refrigerator is still working beautifully. We make sure we put anything that needs to be eaten in that spot before it goes bad. It has its limits because I don't want to put lettuce there, so we still have to keep our eye on the crisper, and some days it seems like the entire refrigerator needs to be jammed into that section, but overall it's been working great.

3. When I first started thinking about wasting less food, from reading Wasted Food and The Frugal Girl, I started labelling our leftovers. That has also helped tremendously because we haven't had any little containers end up in the back of the refrigerator in a state of decay.

I also have to acknowledge that this is easier for us because we don't have children. I really admire anyone who could pull off little or no food waste with kids. That requires a great deal more planning and commitment than I've attempted. So bravo to you moms (and dads!) out there. I also have to say it would be much harder if my husband were a picky eater. He will eat almost anything I cook, and often raves about simple meals. And I'm sure not every husband would go for that "Eat Me!" section. I know a lot of people won't even eat leftovers. Luckily we actually do like them (if we liked the meal in the first place!)

How was your week? Do you have any tips or tricks for reducing food waste you'd like to tell us about? Please share your thoughts, ideas, questions, and concerns in the Comments section. And if you had a lot of food waste, don't be embarrassed. The first step is paying attention.

Wine finds

It's way past time for another installment of Wine Finds. So I hope the wait hasn't kept you from buying wine.

This is when I tell you about a delicious bottle of wine I've found for under $10. I'm not a connoisseur, and I don't use any fancy language, but I HAVE done a lot of research. Over the years. I love wine, and sharing a bottle with friends is one of my favorite activities. It can be one friend, most commonly my husband. Luckily he loves wine almost as much as I do.

I sometimes refer to myself half-jokingly as a wino. My friend Stacey who blogs at My Friend Oprah prefers the term "lush." I think maybe that is a bit more flattering, or at least less unflattering.

I recently bought this bottle of Gnarlyhead Old Vine Zinfandel for 2 reasons. The first is because I love Zinfandel, especially Old Vine Zinfandel. It's a kind of wine they do pretty well here in California. It's a less risky choice than a Pinot Noir. The second reason I'll admit was the super-cool bottle. Again, I apologize for the photo. I had to flip it horizontally and that squished it and made the bottle look stubby. It's actually a normal-sized bottle.

This was a tasty wine. It has the Zinfandel slightly fruity/sweetness, with an undercurrent of earthiness. My husband first thought it was too sweet, but then ended up liking it. Red wines particularly need to "breathe" for at least ten minutes, preferably more, to bring out their flavor. Sorry if that was too much vocabulary for you.

I found this bottle at World Market (what used to be called Cost Plus). Click here to find a store near you. They're all over the place. If you don't have a World Market nearby, you can go to Gnarlyhead's website by clicking here. Please let me know if you try this wine, or fill us in on some of your favorite under $10 wines in the Comments section. And next time I promise I'll write about a white wine.

Continuing the welcome...

I just wanted to write a short post about yesterday's post. When I welcomed The Frugal Girl's readers, I certainly didn't mean to leave anyone out! So I hope it didn't come across that way. It was just that I had gotten so many in such a short time from Kristen that I felt a particular urge to acknowledge you all were out there. I get a lot of new readers all the time from Katy at The Non-Consumer Advocate, and Jonathan at Wasted Food sent me a lot of readers lately, and lots of other blogs as well. And some people come from google and blogger referrals. So I want to give a great big welcome to all of you, however you got here and however long you've been around.

The only place that doesn't seem to bring me many readers is my regular life. I could take that as an insult, but it doesn't surprise me. In fact, I got a distinctly irritated vibe from a few people when I told them I was writing a blog about joining The Compact. Maybe they think I'll judge them every time they buy something new. Which is certainly not the case. I'm positive no one in my family reads this, and very few of my good friends. In a way, it's kind of liberating. One of my friends who has a blog got into a terrible argument with her mother because of something she'd written on her blog. I said to her, "I don't know which is worse: your mother being insulted by something you wrote on your blog, or my mother being so uninterested she doesn't even register that I have one, or even what a blog is."

In fact, I can only think of five people who read my blog that I knew before I started writing this. And four of them make comments sometimes. The other one is too shy- that's okay! But I'm curious if any of my other friends are out there. Show yourself and make a comment if you are! I would also love to hear from any fellow Compacters. And anyone else who'd care to muse on any of this.

This was supposed to be a short post, but of course almost none of my posts actually turn out that way. I just wanted to make sure all my readers felt welcomed, because this experiment is becoming about much more than just not buying new stuff. It's really changing how I think about almost everything. Please leave your thoughts and questions in the Comments section.

Welcome Frugal Girl readers

I know a lot of you are new readers who were referred to me by The Frugal Girl and I just want to welcome you here. I am always happy to have new readers, because it means more ideas and interaction. The more the merrier!

Every day I'm learning so much about simple living, frugal living, and green living from people all over the Internet. And I'm so thrilled about how democratic the blogosphere is. If you like someone's blog, if there's something there that you can learn from or that you find useful or entertaining, you can go back. If you get annoyed or offended, you don't return.

And it's only in this incredibly open, democratic environment that I could have made these new friends. I would never have met The Frugal Girl in my regular life. She's a Christian, homeschooling mom and I'm an agnostic with no kids. Of course, those are only a few of the things that define who we are. But they're the kinds of things that demographers and marketers use to make us feel separate from each other in all those surveys and polls you're constantly reading about and hearing about on TV.

But through our blogs, we can meet through our shared interests. So it becomes about what we have in COMMON rather than what's DIFFERENT about us. I've had my blog less than four months and been reading hers for maybe two, and I've already learned so many new things from her. And she was part of the reason I've been so inspired to cut back on our food waste and cut our grocery bill at the same time.

So lately I feel like I've been living in a different reality than what the brief glimpses of TV news would have me believe the rest of the world is living. I know this recession is really hard on a lot of people, but I can't help but believe there's a silver lining in putting the brakes on the mass consumerism we've been witnessing for the past several decades. And for me this experiment of Buying Nothing New (The Compact) is turning out to be not about deprivation at all, but about abundance. I feel richer than ever - in friendships, and ideas, and experiences, and even in things. I've really come to believe that there will always be plenty of whatever I need. Because we are all so much more resourceful and creative than the people who want us to be consumers would have us believe.

So thanks for reading my blog, whether you're an old reader from way back in January, or whether you've just come by in the past few weeks. I'm happy you're here on this journey with me. Please leave your thoughts, questions, and ideas in the Comments section.

I jumped off the wagon this weekend

I say jumped, and not fell or toppled, because I did it on purpose. It was something I planned and carried out. I bought three new books at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books! And I'm so glad I did.

The Festival of Books is one of my favorite L.A. events. Part of it is a chaotic mass of humanity, a big commercial enterprise, and a magnet for crazed fans. But it attracts so many wonderful writers, it's difficult to decide which panels to go to. And it's always inspiring to me to listen to writers talk about books and writing. And to be around a bunch of people who love to read.

So I knew I was going to see one of my favorite writers, who's actually an acquaintance, and I knew I wanted to buy some of his books as gifts for friends. And I did. I want to support the arts in general and the festival in particular, and I wanted to support this writer.

I even consulted the Compact yahoo group to solicit their opinion on the matter. All but one of them were fully in favor of supporting the arts in general and local arts in particular. The one who dissented said that while she respected their opinions, The Compact was about not buying new, and therefore even if it was a good cause, it was still technically a violation. I actually think she's right, in which case I can either make this an exception to my Compact rules, or I can just say I goofed. Either way, I'm comfortable with it.

I'm going to think about this and decide how I feel about supporting the arts/buying local and handmade crafts, etc. It seems even The Compact members are split on the issue. I feel like I could probably last the year abiding by the strict interpretation, but since I've actually started to think I might be able to do this indefinitely, in that case I would definitely want to support local artists and writers.

The last time I wrote about falling off the wagon was when I bought a Congratulations card for a coworker who had just passed his citizenship test. And the first time I fell off the wagon, way back in January, was when I absolutely had to have gloves for the Jane Austen Ball. So almost four months into this experiment, I've only bought something new that wasn't on my exception list 3 times. And each time I would make the same decision if I had the chance to do it over.

I'm really happy that I supported the festival and my friend and also have 3 excellent holiday gifts already taken care of (signed copies with personal notes). But part of me wonders about the value of making a commitment and then rationalizing why I broke it. Is it a little bit like telling my husband I couldn't help myself if I happened to meet Colin Firth and he had his way with me? What do you think? Please share your thoughts and opinions in the Comments section.

Is it Friday already?

Well, that's not a very pretty picture. That's this week's food waste, and this ugly photo makes me more determined than ever to have NO waste next week so I don't have to post another photo like this one.

What's in the pan, you ask? Homebaked cornbread. About half of it never got eaten. My husband is from the south, but doesn't like cornbread very much. Now I remember why I don't bake it very often. I love cornbread, but if I ate that whole pan by myself, I'd probably gain a few pounds.

This photo, ugly as it is, is typical of our food waste and raises two issues for me. The first is about eating something just because you don't want it to go to waste. But it might be fattening or unhealthy to eat too much of it. I grew up with the "clean plate club" philosophy, and that's not really the best thing for your health (or your figure). You should eat until you're full, not until your plate is clean.

The other issue is the lettuce and spinach. I like to ALWAYS have fresh greens available, so they are often wasted. If I used them up, they wouldn't be in there the next time I wanted a salad. That one is kind of a conundrum to me.

Please let me know if you have any ideas or suggestions for these dilemmas. I don't think I'll be making cornbread anytime soon, but when I bake something and I don't want to eat too much of it, I'll try to remember to give half of it away to a friend or a neighbor, right after I bake it. As for the greens, the only thing I can think of is to try to eat them when I know I'll be going grocery shopping within the next day or two.

I also wanted to mention an article I read this week about the truth behind "sell by" dates on foods. An editor from Prevention magazine gives the lowdown. She claims milk is good up to a week past the sell-by date, eggs are good for 3 to 4 weeks as long as they're refrigerated in their original packaging, hard cheeses will last 3 to 4 months beyond their sell-by date, and yogurt is fine 10 days to 2 week later. Read the full article to get the details.

Another thing the article mentions is that on average, a family of four throws out more than 120 POUNDS of food each month. I hoped that couldn't possibly be true, and checked the figure with Jonathan Bloom at Wasted Food. He agreed that the number seemed high, but reiterated the finding (from Garbage project founder Bill Rathje) that we don't eat 1/4 of what we bring home. So if the family of four brings home 120 pounds of food a week, then the statistic is correct.

Even if the figure is high, there's an awful lot of food going to waste! I've been inspired to do something about ours from reading Jonathan's blog and by Kristen at The Frugal Girl. I never would have imagined when I started this blog about going a year without buying anything new that I'd be taking photographs of spoiled food, but what can I say? I'm actually amazed at how easy it is once you pay attention. And if saving the environment isn't inspiration enough, so far I think I'm saving at least 25% on groceries.

So how did you do this week? Weigh in with your triumphs, confessions, ponderings, and questions in the Comments section. And please share any tips you have for my problems with wasting greens and baked goods.

Happy Earth Day

In honor of Earth Day, here are 3 things you can do that will benefit the planet:

1) Eat less meat. Raising livestock is one of the most significant contributors to a long list of environmental problems from climate change to deforestation to water pollution. You don't have to go vegan, but anything you can do to cut back on meat will make a big difference. Start by trimming down your portion size to about three ounces (the size of a deck of playing cards), suggests Aaron Huertas at The Union of Concerned Scientists. Incidentally, their website also has tons of suggestions on what you can do about global warming.

2) Take good care of your car. Tuning up your engine, replacing your air filters and motor oil regularly, and keeping your tires properly inflated will improve your car's fuel economy by 8% to 20%, according to Jenny Powers at the Natural Resources Defense Council.

3) Make changes in how you do your laundry. Wash your clothes in cold water. Up to 90 percent of the energy used for washing clothing goes to heating the water, according to the Department of Energy. Rack up even more savings by air-drying some of your clothing.

This is part of a post on Yahoo Green called "Pick Your Green Battles." I would have just linked to it, but I didn't agree with some of the conclusions, such as that it doesn't matter much whether we use paper or plastic bags, or cloth or disposable diapers. I find those statements dubious. So I've picked out the part of the article I like.

Cutting back on meat is one of the most important things you can do not just for the environment, but for your health and your pocketbook. Even if you're a committed carnivore, it's easy to eat one less meat meal per week. There are so many delicious vegetarian options and recipes these days, and we're well past the time when the only alternative to meat was canned beans.

I also want to let you know about this fantastic website Earth911. It's where you can go to find out how to recycle anything, plus where to do it. So if you've got an old cell phone lying around, or anything else you don't know how to properly recycle, this is your resource. And they've got lots of other articles and information, like how to make every day Earth Day.

That's kind of what I'm trying to do this year, My Year Without Spending. Part of it is about tweaking my lifestyle so that every day is Earth Day. So while I'm not going to any Earth Day events, I'll be washing our clothes in cold water and running the dishwasher in the middle of the night, and taking cloth bags to the grocery store. Just the regular stuff. I think I observed Earth Day for the past four days when I managed to keep from turning on the air conditioning when the temperature hit 100 degrees.

The thing I would love to do to celebrate Earth Day is to see the Disney movie Earth. It looks great. Every time I see the trailer with all those cute baby animals I give a big "Aaaahhh." We're not going to see it until next month, when we visit our niece and nephew.

What about you? Are you doing anything special for Earth Day? Or do you pretty much live a green lifestyle year-round? Do you have any favorite "green" websites or blogs to tell us about? Please share in the Comments section.

Free ice cream at Ben & Jerry's

FREE STUFF ALERT: Ben & Jerry's is giving away a free scoop of ice cream on Tuesday April 21st. Click here to get the details and find a store near you.

Will you eat yours for breakfast, lunch, or dinner? If I can get there, I think it will be an afternoon snack. Thanks to Natalie at The Frugalista Files for the delicious tip.

I love Freecycle

Check it out- 6 pounds of FREE CHOCOLATE!! Enough for 6 batches of Toll House cookies. Wow.

I know I'm coming to this phenomenon late. So many people have been raving to me about Freecycle, and now I'm a convert. I registered a couple of weeks ago and posted a WANTED: CLOTH NAPKINS ad. I didn't get any responses and that was that.

But then about a week ago, I opened one of the "digests" that lists all the recent ads, and how could I miss the one that said "OFFER: FREE CHOCOLATE?" My pupils dilated, I started salivating, my heartrate probably rose. I'm pretty much a chocolate freak.

I responded with a short essay about "why I should be the one to receive the chocolate" and got a response that it was already taken. After all, the ad had been up for over an hour. But a couple of days later, I received an email asking if I still wanted it because the other person had flaked out. Of course I still wanted it!

The address was right on my way home from work, so it was super convenient. And the bags are filled with chips- just a little flatter than regular Nestle's chips. I'm sure they'll be fine for baking, I've already tasted them. I usually get those bags at the market for about $2.50, so I saved about $15. But it's more fun because she was moving and they would have been thrown out if she hadn't used Freecycle.

On that same digest, I saw a WANTED post for magazines. The girl was doing a scrapbooking project for an art class, so I was motivated to go through about 20 magazines and leave them out for her. I'd been meaning to start going through the stacks of magazines anyway, and doing it for someone else made me get to it right away instead of putting it off. Plus they're not going in a landfill!

It's a great win/win, and I love those. I received free chocolate and got rid of magazines that were gathering dust. What are your best Freecycle or Craigslist scores? Please share in the Comments section.

Green Confessions

I've been wanting to write this post for awhile, and with Earth Day coming up on April 22nd, this seemed like a good time for a little confession. So here goes...

I'm bad at being green.

There, I've said it. That cat is out of the bag.

Of course I believe in being green, I'm just saying I'm not the best role model for green living. I use way too many paper products, don't always turn off the light when I leave a room, and our clothes dryer is a 1970s relic that could power a small village. But by far my worst environmental sin is the extra-long, extra-hot shower I take every day. When I was a teenager, my father would bang on the bathroom door in exasperation. Now, my husband sometimes ducks his head in with "The Department of Water and Power just called." My favorite Seinfeld episode is when Kramer is taking 25-minute showers, even ordering a pair of khakis from J. Crew, and can't understand how anyone can get everything done in 10 minutes.

But along with this being a year of Buying Nothing New and Decluttering, I want to Go Green.

So this is the first day of my greener lifestyle. See, for me, just THINKING about it and WRITING about it is the first step. I'm not really a "Take the Plunge" kind of person. I think. I plan. I deliberate. THEN I take action. If you catch me at the TAKE ACTION stage, it's probably really going to happen.

For example, I've read some blog posts about switching from paper towels to cotton napkins. They just did it, Nike Style. They stopped buying paper and started using cloth. Boom. Whereas I've been THINKING about doing that for months- using less paper, noticing when I think I need to use a paper towel, asking at the Goodwill whether they had any cotton napkins (they didn't), etc. Back when I quit smoking over 15 years ago, I didn't wake up one morning and quit cold turkey. I spent a decade THINKING about quitting and trying to quit, and then when I actually did quit, I sent away for all kinds of literature with tips and photos of cancerous lungs. That did the trick, and I gave it up for good.

Don't get me wrong: I'm not a walking advertisement for environmental irresponsibility. There are some things we're doing pretty well- we're good about recycling and my husband is diligent about disposing of toxic waste like paint at the proper centers, we use cloth bags at the market, we've planted drought tolerant landscaping in the front yard (although the backyard weeds are even more eco-friendly), we drive mid-sized Toyotas which are relatively fuel efficient, and when I take those footprint quizzes we come out below average because we live in a small house, don't have children, and aren't wasteful. Probably the most green thing I've done is to step off the consumer treadmill by joining The Compact.

But I want to do a lot better. So over the next year, I'll be using my baby steps approach to tackle the following:

1. give up paper towels
2. air dry the laundry
3. switch to natural cleansers
4. start composting
5. stop those catalogs and junk mail once and for all
6. use and waste less water

I hope you'll join me. Look for a baby steps challenge soon. I'm gearing up for it... One thing I WON'T be doing is giving up my showers. I've been trying to make them shorter, but I'm not going to start showering every other day or taking "bird baths." And you won't see me taking any Marine-style showers, unless it's government ordered. I don't think that's on Obama's agenda.

Ah, confessions are so good for the soul. I feel about 10 pounds lighter. What about you? How green are you? Do you have any green confessions you'd like to make? Or maybe you want to chastise me for my wicked ways. Please share in the Comments section.

It's Friday...

...and that means it's time to talk about food waste. I'm posting a photo of the food that had to be tossed this week in answer to a challenge by The Frugal Girl. She's on a mission to waste less food, and she's enlisting everyone who reads her blog. It's a good cause, because according to some estimates, we Americans waste about 25-40 percent of the food that's produced. You can read about the negative impact of all that wasted food and get all the facts at Wasted Food.

So we're doing our small part by trying not to throw any food away. This week I forgot about this almond milk and once it's opened it has to be used within 10 days, so it's NG. It wasn't in the Eat Me! section, so it fell through the cracks. Not too bad though, only about half full.

If you don't have an Eat Me! section in your refrigerator yet, get hip. Word is spreading. The idea was featured this week over at Wasted Food. For me, getting that email from Jonathan Bloom was kind of like getting a call to be on American Idol (if I could sing or wanted to be on television).

What tricks do you use to reduce your food waste? Or do you gleefully let it go bad, enjoying the science experiment aspect? Or maybe you have a teenager or a Labrador Retriever in the house? Please share your thoughts in the Comments section.

Creative Parenting

I like this post by Kate over at An Exercise in Frugality. She's a single mom with two daughters, and she had the older daughter make an audio book for the younger daughter. Some books they loved weren't available as audio books, so they made them! Now they can listen to them anytime- when mom's busy, or tired, or just doesn't have the patience to read the same book AGAIN. And it will be big sister's voice.

I don't have kids, but I think this is great parenting. It's teaching children to be creative and resourceful, and that sometimes it's more fun if everything isn't just dropped into your lap.

It's a great idea, and she's got other great ideas about parenting, saving more, and spending less. Please share your creative parenting tips in the Comments section.

Free ice cream

Who doesn't like ice cream? I've never met such a person.

FREE STUFF ALERT: Tomorrow, April 15th, get your free scoop of ice cream at Maggie Moo's ice cream and treatery. I don't know that brand, but you can click here to find a location near you.

It's a Tax Day promotion, I suppose as a reward for getting through the chore of filing your taxes. But I don't need an excuse. What about you? What's your favorite excuse to bring out the Ben and Jerry's? Tell me about it in the Comments section, and also let me know if you get a free Maggie Moo's. I want to hear about it.

Continuous Small Treats

Our dear sweet neighbor gave us this Easter basket. He baked the ginger cake himself. I can't wait to enjoy it with tea tomorrow afternoon. It will perfectly embody the concept of Continuous Small Treats. By the way, the flag reads "Joyenses Paques," which means "Happy Easter" in French.

The late British novelist Iris Murdoch said "One of the secrets of a happy life is continuous small treats." She was happily married for 43 years to Oxford professor John Bayley. According to Bayley, one of Iris's greatest pleasures was swimming.

So here is my list of 20 small treats for a happy life:

1. homemade ice cream
2. stroking a purring cat
3. listening to the ocean
4. the smell of freshly brewed coffee
5. a room lit only by candles
6. any track on Miles Davis' "Kind of Blue"
7. a cup of tea
8. a warm bath at the end of a long day
9. freshly baked bread
10. a note from my sweetheart
11. the cooing of a mourning dove
12. a good hard laugh
13. a walk at magic hour
14. a perfect margarita
15. a horse eating an apple out of your hand
16. fresh herbs
17. reading a good book in my favorite chair
18. black licorice
19. a footrub
20. a big hug

I'll be enjoying my small treat tomorrow at tea time: fresh ginger cake with tea.

What are your favorite small treats? Please share in the Comments section.